Reconciliation/Confession

Please come along to The Friary Church between 11 am and 12 pm on Saturdays if you wish your Confession to be heard. 

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Alternatively, you may make an appointment by calling 01293 524176 Option 4 or 5 to speak to one of our Priests and arrange a time/date for your Confession. 
 

Confession and Communion for the Housebound

Please call 01293 524176 Option 4 or 5 to arrange for one of our Priests to attend.

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Individual Examination of Conscience

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​First Commandment: “I am the Lord your God, you shall not have strange gods before Me.”

 

Have I denied God? Have I been ashamed of or denied my faith in front of others? Have I ridiculed the teachings or practices of the Church? Have I neglected my prayers? Have I used witchcraft, Wicca, or other Occult practices? Have I practiced various forms of superstition such as fortune tellers, mediums, ouija boards, tarot cards?

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Second Commandment: “Do not take the name of the Lord in vain.”

Do I use God’s name carelessly, in anger, or in surprise? Have I called down evil up on anyone or anything?

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 Third Commandment: “Keep holy the Sabbath Day.” 

Have I, through my own fault, failed to come to Mass each Sunday and every Holy Day of Obligation? Do I arrive at Mass late or leave early without good reason? Do I allow myself to be distracted at Mass?

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​Fourth Commandment: “Honor your father and mother.”

Have I disobeyed my parents or treated them with disrespect? Am I disrespectful, impolite, or discourteous toward my family? Have I neglected my work or my stud ies? Have I been helpful in my home? Have I failed to study seriously and with dili gence? Have I missed an exam at school because of laziness? Am I disrespectful to ward the elderly? Am I disobedient to the civil law or to those in authority such as the police?

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Fifth Commandment: “You shall not kill.”

Did I have an abortion or help another to have an abortion? Have I mutilated my body or another’s body? Did I attempt suicide or seriously consider thoughts of sui cide? Do I act violently by fighting or hitting others? Have I had thoughts of hatred toward another? Have I taken illegal drugs or abused prescription drugs? Have I sold or distributed illegal drugs? Do I neglect to take proper care of my body? Do I eat too much, or sleep too much? Do I drink beer or other alcoholic beverages in ex cess? Have I allowed myself to become intoxicated? Am I too concerned about my health or appearance? Do I deliberately harbor unkind and revengeful thoughts about others? Have Itaken revenge? Have I used harsh or abusive language toward another? Do I act rudely, impolitely, or ridicule others? Have I been guilty of the sin of racism? Am I cruel to animals?

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Sixth & Ninth Commandments: “Do not commit adultery. Do not covet your neighbours wife.”

Have I desired or done impure things? Have I taken pleasure in entertaining im pure thoughts or desires? Have I read impure material, listened to music with im pure lyrics, or looked at impure images, whether in photos or on television or in movies or on the Internet? Have I aroused sexual desire in myself or another by im pure kissing, embracing, or touching? Have I committed impure actions alone, i.e., masturbation? Have I committed homosexual acts or other unnatural acts? Do I use artificial contraception whether surgical, barrier or chemical methods? Have I dressed immodestly or been too concerned with the way I look? Do I use vulgar lan guage or tell or listen to impure jokes or stories?

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Seventh and tenth Commandments: “You shall not steal. Do not covet your neighbour's goods.”

Have I taken anything that was not my own? Have I damaged private or public property or defaced it by vandalism? Have I been guilty of shop-lifting? Have I ac cepted or bought stolen property or helped someone to steal? Have I bribed some one? Do I gamble excessively? Have I borrowed something without the owner’s permission? Have I failed to return something I borrowed? Do I waste money or spend it extravagantly? Have I harbored a greed for money or worldly possessions? Have I made of money, or any possession, a false god? Do I waste goods or food? Have I cheated on tests or schoolwork? Have I cheated in games or sports?

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Eighth Commandment: “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour.”

Have I lied deliberately? Have I sworn to do something sinful or illegal? Have I slandered others by attributing to them sins they did not commit or of which I had no evidence? Do I gossip about others or listen to gossip? Have I told a secret I was asked to keep? Have I betrayed someone’s trust? Have I criticized anyone unchari tably? Do I make rash judgments and harbor false suspicions about others? Have I deliberately misled or deceived anyone? Have I refused to forgive someone or held a grudge against him or her? Have I failed to apologize or make amends to someone I offended?

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Other considerations:

Am I greedy or selfish or do I indulge in self-pity? Am I proud or vain or do I show off? Am I superficial and worldly? Do I desire to be praised by exaggerating my success? Am I touchy and hypersensitive? Do I magnify the least oversight or thoughtlessness into an insult or deliberate slight? Have I been boastful? Have I been arrogant with others? Have I obstinately defended actions which are sinful, ei ther my own or other’s? Am I rebellious? Have I spent useless time planted before the TV when I could be doing more constructive things? Am I envious of someone’s possessions and do I inordinately desire them to be my own? Do I take delight in the misfortunes of others?

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​Once you have had time to reflect on your sins, simply go to the confessional and celebrate the sacrament of Reconciliation in the following way:

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Go into the confessional and say, In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. Forgive me, father, for I have sinned. It has been (how long?) since my last confession and these are my sins… (confess all your sins…be not afraid!).

 

Father will give you a penance and then ask you to pray the Act of Contrition. Feel free to use this one:

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ACT OF CONTRITION: O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended You, and I detest all my sins because of Your just punishments, but most of all because they offend You, my God, who are all-good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Your grace, to sin no more and to avoid the near occasion of sin. Amen.

 

The priest will then say the prayer of forgiveness (absolution). If your penance was to say some prayers please immediately go back to your seat and say your prayers.

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​Holy Father,

in the quiet of my soul,

I humbly thank You for the gift of forgiveness.

Cleanse my heart and renew my spirit,

that I may walk in Your light.

Grant me strength to resist temptation

and to serve You faithfully.

May Your grace guide me always.

Amen.

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​Source: mycatholic.life; Prayer for Renewal After Confession;

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